Monday, November 6, 2017


Anxiety emerges when auto-control and confidence fade away. Thus, lowering ourselves and living under the dominion of impatience pave the way for anxiety to take over.

Understanding this based on our lives and recognizing the different types of manifestations of low self steem and impatience we make, is essential to start discrediting anxiety and the thoughts associated with it

Because in order to get rid of anxiety, we need to discredit it, we can try denying/ignoring and it might work temporarily but it does not stop it from coming back and haunting us once again, because denial is a gateway that opens us up to what we most fear, locks it inside us and throws the key away. We can try fighting anxiety fervously but resistance can become assistance and so instead of removing it from us, we actually reinforce it

Simple and common actions we make on almost daily basis can tell us a lot about our level of self steem and patience.

Patience   Does not only concern waiting for something or someone but also concerns reactions to uncomfortable situations and unpleasant people. Our level of nervousness reflects how much lack of auto-control we have when dealing with situations in which the content, the nature of the outside or the outcome might be out of our hands or more into the hands of others or in the hands of time

When going through uncomfortable situations, the first thing we want is to be in peace as quickly as possible. So peace is the goal but through nervousness we create a contradiction between what we want and what we do to get it.

Impatience manifested as anger or rage also turn us more suitable for anxiety because of lack of auto-control. It is auto-control that is responsible for achieving the goal (peace), a concious action that does not take in consideration the level of displeasure of situations (by focusing and screaming out all the discontentment we have by forms of complaints), because when we do that, we reinforce the situations power over us and our distance from peace.

So it is not about ignoring or fighting but achieving the goal through the compatible/appropriate way.
Patience or impatience is not fragmented into patience/impatience for waiting and patience/impatience for dealing with uncomfortable situations. Having the idea that it is fragmented keeps us from understanding that impatience or patience for waiting reinforces impatience or patience for dealing with uncomfortable situations and vice versa

Because it is a non-fragmented element, regardless of what it is reacting to. Thus, by developing more auto-control (maitaining or achieving peace) when comfronted with a particular situation, there is a reinforcement of it (auto-control) within ourselves in order to deal with other kinds of situations and so on

When we feed auto-control, it feeds us back with peace and it is peace that anxiety mostly takes from us

Self Steem    Anxiety uses the uncertainty to create doubts and with doubts it can install itself in us, sometimes to such a level that even the smallest situations or no reason at all invoke anxiety, as if it had become a chronicle condition

Self Steem means it is about the self, not the outside, it is something naturally independent of the outside but we have been making it dependant by expecting facilitators to appear on the way (perhaps by someones compliment or a gift that appears to fall from the sky). So instead of being our own facilitator, we expect others to be and this very action lowers ourselves because in our subconcious, it plants the idea that we are not capable of having confidence if nothing or no one around promotes it

There are countless actions that reinforce anxiety by promoting lack of confidence. This lack of confidence might be manifested in situations which have nothing to do with anxiety but serve as food for anxiety to keep a strong hold of us, because lack of confidence is self doubt and anxiety is a consequence of doubt. It (doubt) does not separate what has to do with anxiety from what has to do with low self steem, by affecting one, it affects the other, thus enhancing anxiety

Anxiety has the power to induce the creation of fantasies in the mind. Although in the beginning, they might be harmless, eventually they become harmful because the mind subconciously searches for possibilities from both sides (positive and negative) resulting in doubt, which is the primary base for anxiety... Meanwhile that´s happening, we become impatient and lower our self steem, thus exercizing no auto-control against the unwelcomed invasion (of thoughts and emotions created by anxiety)

Such fantasies are not part of reality and what is not part of reality should not change our reality
Understanding this is crucial to discredit anxiety, especially taking in consideration that when under the dominion of such fantasies, we are hypnotized to a degree that we actually believe and expect them as reality. Therefore, auto-control and confidence together act as a shield to protect us from letting the mind being taken over by anxiety, a product of doubt reinforced in us by our own behaviour

A change in behaviour is not simply a change in behaviour. For instance, by changing the behaviour from expecting facilitators to push us towards something positive to becoming our own facilitator, we destroy the root that was planted before, that said we needed others encouragement in order to feel encouraged and good,and plant the seed of self encouragement, despite the hardship of situations. Thus, we exercise confidence in the natural way and through confidence we enhance auto-control because the thoughts and emotions (coming from anxiety) that actually controlled us and caused us instability, no longer take place.

All flows smoothly because it is all interconnected, once we not only understand but realize it happening in our lives (when a bad emotion or thought connects with another bad emotion or thought and both enhance each other), then we will be able to dismantle the system of control that anxiety through its agents (low self steem, impatience and others) set up for us.

And when we understand and realize that patience connects to auto-control; auto-control connects to confidence; confidence connects to inner peace; inner peace connects to emotional stability and emotional stability connects to strength and each one enhances the other, then we are able to lead ourselves into a new life, into a better life, into success and 

Into a life free of anxiety, because by exercising patience we gained auto-control, by gaining auto-control we liberated ourselves to think for ourselves(instead of being controlled by unwelcomed thoughts) and by such liberation we get to discredit anxiety and understanding what it really is, a force that has no power and only acts upon us when we do not exercise our power to keep confidence and auto-control when needed (so no fantasies distort our discernment into believing they are true).

Awareness of the connections and juncture of negative with negative and positive with positive within ourselves, manifested through our behaviour (externally, internally or both), is of great importance to start understanding how anxiety tricks us into feeding and giving shelter to it and how we can overpower it.

Soon, it is up to us to persevere in our efforts against anxiety agents, in order to discredit it and see ourselves going through situations which the outcome is uncertain, without being imprisoned and consumed by non-realistic thoughts and negative possibilities and emotions.

Anxiety is complex and tricky but its weaknesses are huge and freedom from it starts with simple actions

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