Friday, March 24, 2017

Transcendence Over Denial

For Reflection: 

It is more convenient to treat symptoms than to treat actual causes and when symptoms are minor, they are easily ignored.

The body reveals symptoms from our biological system
as attitudes reveal symptoms from our mental state.

As minor physical symptoms can reveal great problems, 
so does minor non-good attitudes reveal great threats, threats against our own well-being.

Apathy: The action of indifference towards someone else's pain, hardship or misleading. If the heart is uncapable of feeling for someone (anyone, including strangers), it doesn't feel remorse when it generates an attitude hurtful to others.

Apathy is a doorway to lying, by lying we use each other and the gains of it bring denial as an attempt to comfort the mind. 

Using: Lifeless objects are made for using, not beings of life. Yet we've been engaging in friendships, relationships and businesses in which benefits are not intended to be mutual or close to mutual but only to get us to receive more and give less, to feel superior and others inferior, to control relations not by essence of the heart but by convenient strategies that unable us to use others to achieve some kind of success.

The usage of words from doubt and falseness to affirm something to generate gains is a tool of convincing others of non-existent Love, Care and Sincerity.

When we deprive others of such fruits by giving them the impression they exist, we also deprive ourselves of living what we receive to the full potential, in a deeper and purer sense. In which, there's no conflict between what's concealed in our hearts and what we receive from the outside.

That being said, no matter how great amount of wonderful things we receive by using others and lying to them, it does not promote well-being and the first principle of happiness is well-being, regardless of any aspect of believe (religious or scientific) or style of life.

Perhaps the modern man's dissatisfaction comes from this whole world of non-existant aspects promoted to create a better reality, perhaps that's why relationships are easily broken and friendships easily dismantled. 

Lying: It has become an almost daily activity and serves several purposes, life's circumstances usually are seen as what pushes us to it, so we can: take advantange on someone; help hide someone's mistake; get better grades by cheating; convince someone we did something we didn't; convince someone we didn't do something we did. All this in order to escape problems or avoid some sort of uncomfortable situation but how can we feel comfortable if our mind is deceived as well ? 

It is deceived because although we know our untruthful acts, we manipulate our mind to look at the gains and ignore the means by which they were obtained, even if it's composed of the suffering and misleading of others.

Nevertheless, our denial of the bad seeds we plant and bad fruits we spread, in the end we know that our achievements are based on lies and pain we generate in others by the consequences of our dishonesty.

Remember ! Nobody heals by hurting others; Nobody becomes strong by diminishing others; Nobody is truly happy by inflicting pain in someone else's heart. Remember !

When we lie to others, we also lie to ourselves and whatever advantange is gained, minor or major, it is the product of a non-existant reality. Thus if something doesn't exist, it cannot contribute to our well-being 
But lying is a beast of many heads. Hence denial is born.

Denial: It's a convenient tool to avoid facing what makes us dissapointed and ashamed of ourselves. The usage of denial twists our perception of reality. It makes us believe that admitting flaws and mistakes diminishes us when in fact what really diminishes us is not acknowledging them.

By denying our bad attitudes, we condition ourselves to move towards an unstable and weak mental/emotional state. This happens so because we don't allow ourselves to face our own conciousness about the things we've done. In this case, everytime we do something dishonest, we accumulate denial and in turn accumulate weakness.

Those who don't fight, don't get strong !
This is the basic principle why denial instead of strengthening us, weakens us.

With time, the fear of facing our own conciousness drives us away from even perceiving dishonest attitudes as bad and so we become almost machanized to fill up desiring voids no matter what needs to be done and when we have no consideration for other people's feelings and life situation they are found in, we end up damaging and ruining them for benefits for ourselves.

Benefits which although stimulate more denial by making it easier to do so, also brings the constant feeling of dissatisfaction because denial can hide what we don't wanna face but cannot erase it.

When we toss aside peace of spirit, the accomplishments based on dishonesty can be immense and yet not able to reduce the feeling of dissatisfaction.

On the other hand, when we trascend over denial, we learn that in order to enhance ourselves, we need to stop diminishing ourselves( by denying reality); in order to strengthen ourselves, we shouldn't take admitting mistakes as a weakness but the denial of them as one.

Trascendence over denial shall bring the true enjoyment and satisfaction of our accomplishments because in the process, no falseness we generated, no heart we hurt and so reality is not split in two pieces but stays as one, one that we feel happy about.