Sunday, October 30, 2016

Bringing Back Forgotten Values

The advance of technology and consequently the creation of the modern era, caused many changes in the world, not just in the environment that surround us but also changes in the way we behave and how we communicate with each other.

The virtual world has become a big part of our lives and through it, we learned to develop certain skills such as saying meaningful words without really meaning them or even understanding them and we also learned to hide truths from each other, since doing it behind a screen is much easier... But these retrogressive skills learned did not stop in the virtual world, they expanded to life outside of the screen as well, which allowed us to act and speak in convenient insincere ways (under any circumstances), which often implies lying to get some kind of social advantage. 

Our lack of sincerity not only has distanced us from each other but also has distanced us from feeling well or working on feeling well with ourselves. Because, we feel so pressured to work on the image we expose, that we have been denying who we really are and how we really feel. 

Without sincerity, it´s not just others that feel unable to trust us, we also feel unable to trust them (even when they have no idea we´ve been insincere), because if we did trust them, sincerity would be seen as a top priority.

That way, even though we are close to each other, we feel as much distant as if we were strangers.

The modern world has also allowed us to get an amount of attention which was never possible in the past. This possibility of great attention fascinated us, to the point we forgot how it is like to be mutual. It is not just about mutual feelings, it is about mutual communication, which seems to be fading away because we only want to be known and let know.

Someone tell us they have been in pain, right away we mention our pain as well
Someone tell us about a trip they had, right away, we mention our trips as well
Someone tell us about where they study or where they work and right away we mention our studying or working area as well

Whatever happened to the
" how bad is it or where is it ? "
" how was it ? Did you enjoy it ? "
" do you like it ? what are you looking for in the future ? Tell me more about it ? " ?

Simple questions which we would like anyone to ask us and yet we do not bother using them... It is as if we do not talk anymore but simply exchange information, without interest in knowing, only interested in letting know. 

We always find time and opportunities to make ourselves known, which is not wrong but about knowing and getting to know ?

When a social connection is not mutual, it is unbalanced, lighter for one side and heavier for the other side and the whole social structure of community becomes disintegrated and filled with void.

In a world without mutuality, bonds are difficult to form and when they do, they are easily broken. Isn´t that what we have been experiencing ?

It has become very easy for us to use replacement as a way of earning a more convenient life, we replace friends of today with tomorrow´s new friends, we replace the relationships of today with tomorrow´s new relationships. It has become a cycle that has no end, we are constantly acquiring new social contacts and status and yet we are not able to keep any of them. 

Perhaps if we bring back mutuality as a principle of life, we will once again be able to form and keep meaningful aspects of social life.

Another value, we seem to have forgotten is humbleness and part of it has to do with our lack of mutuality, since we don´t form bonds, we act as being free of responsibility for what we cause. We feel in the right to be wrong and pose ourselves as right so we dont have to apologise for being wrong. It´s as if acknowledging being wrong diminish us but in fact, it´s the refusal to acknowledge that diminish us, if it didn´t, we wouldn´t look for any distraction or way of denial about it.

Coming to think about it, without mutuality we tend to be less humble towards each other and without sincerity we tend to be less mutual with each other and without humbleness we tend to be less sincere and less mutual as well. All of these absences  are interconnected, they influence one another and not rarely dictate how far one goes.


In the modern world, we humankind have chosen machines and pets over each other, to be company, friends and family members. Machines exist to be used, not taken as a personal social member, pets exist to be loved and treated with care but not to replace someone from our own kind.

Our social structure is in ruins and relationships unbalanced but if we bring back forgotten values, such as sincerity, mutuality and humbleness, we will be able to restore it and not let the world mold us but be the ones to mold the world. 

Such change starts with us, let´s not wait for it to start with someone else. Let´s bring back the forgotten values and hopefully others will do it as well. 





Sunday, September 4, 2016

Auto-Oppression

Some believe it´s life´s negative situations that cause someone to be oppressed, oppressed with the kind of feelings and thoughts that consume energy, unlike the kind of feelings and thoughts that bring energy... Because it´s only natural for what is bad to put a heavy weight on somebody´s heart and for what is good to provide lightness. 

Although it´s all true, that weight doubles it´s heaviness when we give it energy to do so... Because in every life´s situation, reaction must be considered as much as action. Thus, actions alone, meaning life´s situation, cannot determine if there will be heaviness or lightness, they only trigger the process of us reacting in order to give in energy or to preserve and use it to achieve lightness in the best scale we can.

If in every bad action, bad reaction is considered the appropriate answer, it becomes impossible not to conceive heaviness within, since we give in more energy to the negative source that already managed to take some away.

Simple reactions considered appropriate answers, such as excuses, complaint and blaming act as energy transmitters from us to the consuming heaviness, which makes us auto-oppress ourselves while believing it´s a healthy way of expression.

It´s true there must be expression since repressed feelings can triple the heaviness that might have been already doubled but the expression must not exist in such a way that it joins hands with the negative source, we wanted nothing to do with in the first place. We cannot choose what actions will appear on our way but we can choose how we will react.

When a bad present or past situation is taking in consideration, almost instantaneously, complaints are made because we feel in the right to do so.... But such expression is tricky because at the same time it allows us to feel a sense of lightness afterwards, it bonds to us in such a way that the next time we remember or talk about that situation, there´s a tendency that we will complain again and so such reaction never seems to cease, specially considering that life´s negative situations are non-stop, even if are absent for a period of time.

The accumulation of this repetitive reaction cannot result in nothing but heaviness. Instead of giving energy to the source that is already taking it from us, we shall preserve our energy by not complaining and using it to be applied to an attitude we can have to restore the situation, to forgive the ones who hurt us and to let goof what keeps disturbing us from time to time, as long as complaints live on, we do not let go. 

Complaints live on when we use excuses, excuses not only to make complaints but excuses to take away our responsibility to overcome a situation, they provide avoidance from facing a damaging way of living which make us comfortable feeling heavy and oppressed because someone or some people or some circumstances brought us the reason.

It´s as if although we wanna be free from heaviness, we bond to it because we feel in the right to express our hurt by doing so.

Such way of expression is a way of auto-oppression, since it´s no longer the situations themselves that emprison us but it´s our own repetitive and accumulative negative reactions.

In the end, another consuming element is born, the blame, the blame we put on others or on ourselves. Complaints and excuses serve as keys to trigger this blame and make us destined to carry heaviness throughout time. When we stop the complaints and excuses we can save ourselvess from being bond to heaviness. 

We make our own destiny when we choose how to react and weather there will be lightness or heaviness.

Friday, February 12, 2016

Perseverance




Perseverance is the key to freedom and success

But sometimes our surroundings and the condition of our reality work as a big dark cloud,
blocking hopes from reaching our thoughts and blocking any sign of faith from reaching our heart.

When we have the will, that dark cloud oppresses us, bringing us any reason to remain in pessimism.

When we do not have the will, it suffocates us and traps us into the realistic reasons that circumstances in life bring us, making us believe that any thought that differ from what reality influences, is a thought not worth having.

And many times we fall for it and believe it´s not worth having hopes and faith because as we accept defeat, we start seeing hopes and faith as nothing but  frustration mechanisms.

And such frustration mechanisms can be intensified when no sign of hopes or changing is around.

Not all is in our hands but what lives in the heart and what leaves the heart can be, because hopes and faith are not mechanisms to get frustrated. They are mechanisms to rise us up.

As much as they can be seen and felt so intensified as frustrations, they can also be seen and felt so intensified as weapons

Weapons which do not kill but heal and bring more life

Weapons to be  used during our  last drop of strength, during the last drop of hope, during the last drop of patience. 

Because when all around says all is lost and hopeless....

Only through perseverance,we can say: by each step I give, I walk towards a better future and if life is dark now, I will not wait for any lamps to shine a light, I will shine it myself because the creator of earth and heaven gave me authority to walk around darkness and be light.

Life can be so overwhelming that we may succumb to darkness without even noticing at first, by speaking words made of negative and seeing no danger in it, by bringing death to dreams instead of strengthening their life, by waking up each day accepting a darker day than yesterday.

Sometimes the dark may not only be within but also on the reality of life itself and so walking in darkness is unavoidable but such darkness only steals our strength and dreams when we forget that we have light.

Light strong enough to lead us out of darkness or in some cases, strong enough to lead us through it until peace is restored.

When perseverance is unconditional, all the scars that life brings to the heart will be healed and by each scar healed, more strength will the heart have and more prosperous life will be because real prosperity is having what We need during the darkest  times and when the heart has what it needs, all the rest can be gained and achieved.

Perseverance is a matter of hope and faith and they work to restore and heal.
If You still can´t see it, stop accepting defeat !!!!
Because victory is reachable and perseverance is the key !!!!