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Anxiety emerges when auto-control and confidence fade away. Thus, lowering ourselves and living under the dominion of impatience pave the way for anxiety to take over. Understanding this based on our lives and recognizing the different types of manifestations of low self steem and impatience we make is essential to start discrediting anxiety and the thoughts associated with it Because in order to get rid of anxiety, we need to discredit it, we can try denying/ignoring and it might work temporarily but it does not stop it from coming back and haunting us once again, because denial is a gateway that opens us up to what we most fear, locks it inside us and throws the key away . We can try fighting anxiety fervously but resistance can become assistance and so instead of removing it from us, we actually reinforce it Simple and common actions we make on almost daily basis can tell us a lot about our level of self steem and patience. Patience    Does not only concern waiting for some
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Self-sabotage Part III - Deconstruction

By now, you should understand how attractive the fear-desire cycle is and the two very appealing illusions that self-sabotage makes us fall for: The first one: we choose to allow and even feed fear inside us when we experience moments of doubt because fear makes us believe that by having it we are inspired to act to defend what we desire. The second one: we choose to feed doubt and turn it into a monster in our minds so that we get the chance of experiencing the comforting/relieving feelings provided by desire and also the chance to experience overwhelming euphoria and joy if the desire is fulfilled. However, what really happens is: we attack what we desire and break up the continuation of peace of mind. If you are not familiar with the above, please follow the sequence of this series before continuing in this final part: Self-sabotage part 1 - Exposing the mechanism and Self-sabotage part 2 - The unveiling. Now that you've come this far, let's get into the "final&

Self-sabotage Part II - The unveiling

Question: what is there to unveil?   Answer: why self-sabotage seems to be attached to the human psyche to the point of being vicious. How's that? First, fear may be taken (conciously or not) as something positive and even necessary for survival. Well, that might be true concerning the survival of our vessel (biological body), after all, if we don't fear standing in front of a car going 100 km per hour, we commit suicide. However, the same logic does not apply to the emotional/psychological world. Then why are we so inclined to allow fear in us? Perhaps because fear leads us to defend what we desire. However, by defending what we desire through fear we are actually attacking what we desire. In order to go deeper into all this, we should first understand a bit more about the linear sequence of events that mainly constitute self-sabotage. First, there's the "waiting time" along with a constant Will to know what is ahead or not perceived, in turn they (wait

Self-sabotage Part I - Exposing the mechanism

What is self-sabotage? It's when your attitude (expressed or repressed) deceives you into believing it's the best way to reach what you want, when in fact it drives you away from what you want, thus creating a contradiction: you want something but your attitude goes against accomplishing such wanting. By now you might wonder: how is it possible? Or thinking: that doesn't happen, not to me. Well, what lies below might make you reconsider what you know about yourself... Let's start by the difficulty or even denial in accepting that you sabotage your own self, notice that by "accepting" I mean accepting its existence, not accepting the continuation of its existence as normal. Language can be tricky, right? Well, do you notice the words that come out of your mouth? For instance, was there ever a time you wanted something and worked hard for it (like passing on a test or becoming a better player in a sport or losing weight or quitting an addictive habit) and

Repressed Emotions part II : The diagnosis and the road to liberation

If you haven't read part I, please do or you won't understand the message below. That being said, now after you have read, understood and reflected upon part I, it's time to get into the diagnosis and liberation from traumas Self-Diagnosis After all you've read, you might ask "How do I know if some of my behaviours are part of the mechanism to release excessive negative emotions initially imprinted in me by a past trauma?" Well, first of all, some traumas might be so buried inside, long distant from our conscience that it's difficult to remember, but we don't need to worry about that There's one question you should ask yourself: Do I have a craving for something during an uncomfortable situation or after accumulation of unpleasant situations at work for example or else? It doesn't have to be a craving that is instantly fulfilled or fulfilled at all, you could only have the desire, it's enough to identify that desire as being a cra

Repressed Emotions Part I : The acknowledgement

Trauma is a sensitive topic to approach. For some, the approachment generates deep pain, for others anger, and for some amused denial of even having one (trauma), but hopefully sticking up until the end of this message will be productive for you, even if you have another kind of attitude: indifference to your own traumas. Before getting specifically into the trauma issue, it's essential to clear out two points necessary in order to understand how trauma can affect us on a daily basis Point 1: Suppose you´re a person that suffers from low blood pressure. During the hot season you experience issues because of it, but even though during the cold season those issues (symptoms) are gone or reduced, it doesn't mean you´re cured from low blood pressure, it just means that the circumstances of the environment can favour or disfavour you expressing such condition. Meanwhile, you always carry this condition in you as long as you don't work to cure yourself from it Point 2: Imag

Selectability As a Driver For Self-Destruction

Being and acting selectively may be convenient and go along with what pleases us but it can have catasthophic consequences . By avoiding to look at a part of ourselves that compose hard unpleasant truths, we cannot overcome what disturbs us because we need to see the whole picture in order to understand and only through understanding, overcoming can come Idolizing joy and pleasure in order to deny and hide from hard truths within is a defense mechanism on a concious level but an auto-destructive mechanism on a subconcious level Physical harming allows us to change our perception from the hurting within to the hurting of the body and the use of chemical substances allows us to temporarily find relief from the pain within. So even though we conciously know these ruin us, subconciously we associate physical harming, chemical substance use and other vices and compulsion for joy and pleasure with relief from the hard truths within and so we are able to go on without shutting down our